5 Habits That Sabotage Your Career
If you ever wonder why you keep questioning yourself, why you feel stuck in your life or why you are not meeting your goals, you may be sabotaging your own success. When we set the goals we have for our lives but don’t meet them this may be because we are engaging in habits that are self-sabotaging. Let’s take a look at the habits that may be holding you back:
The internal messages we tell ourselves pay a major role in how we act in our day to day life. If you have a negative conversation with yourself every day this will translate to your mood, behaviour, and actions. Do you ever say to yourself “why try when I’m only going to fail”, “I can’t do that”, or “I’m not good enough to do that”? These messages have a direct influence on whether or not you try, and if you will be successful. When you hear these negative messages in your head start to re-frame them: “why try when I’m only going to fail” turns into “I will try because if I don’t I will miss out on an opportunity”. “I can’t do that” becomes “I can and I will do that”. And “I’m not good enough to do that” becomes “I am good enough to do that”. Rephrasing the message builds confidence and helps increase your confidence level to take the next steps.
Procrastination can present itself in different forms. You can directly procrastinate a task by identifying what you need to do then saying to yourself “I will do that later”. Most times however, people indirectly procrastinate. Some ways this translates is for example always being on your phone, scrolling aimlessly on social media, binge watching TV/Netflix, browsing the internet and so on. When you procrastinate you avoid engaging in a task short-term but this approach can cause you more stress if you wait until a deadline to complete the task. You can also risk not completing the task at all. To avoid this set time limits for yourself and eliminate distractions. This may be tough at first but develop strategies that help you. For example you may need to physically leave the space you are in so that there are no distractions, put your phone away so that it takes more effort to retrieve it, make a list of to do’s and reward yourself when you have completed the list. These strategies can start to help you reduce procrastination and help you focus on the tasks you need to complete.
3. Unclear or no goals
If you know you want to be successful but you don’t know why or how then you may have unclear or no goals for yourself. Having goals are essential to helping you be successful. A tool that can be used to help you start thinking about what you want for your life is a vision board. This is a board of pictures and words of what you visualize for your life. For example if you are visualizing that you want to run your own business you can start to work backwards. Ask yourself questions such as what industry or business would I like to get into, what do I need to do this, how can I make it happen. The questions you ask yourself when you start to work backwards will help you start to form specific goals that you can start to work on achieving.
4. Limited networks
That old saying of its not what you know but who you know is relevant here. The networks that you build will help contribute to your success. Sometimes being introduced to the right person can help take your career to the next level. Building your network should be an active process that you work on every day. Target individuals in your field or industry who you want to form relationships. As soon as you meet someone get their contact information and follow-up after the meeting. Look for opportunities to meet others. Networking has been proven to be effective and is how 80% of people make new leads.
5. Lack of effort
Finally, if you are not putting in the effort then it will be challenging to take yourself to the next level. Most people who are successful will say that they did things other people wouldn’t do and they invested time to cultivate their art. The effort you put in will help you achieve your goals.